> James,
>
> On Sat, 17 Jul 2004 16:23:16 -0700, James Newton, Host wrote:
>
> > 1. Welcome back! I am truly happy to have you and relieved that you have decided to come back. I missed you.
>
> Hear Hear!
>
> >...<
>
> > If you make ONE disparaging remark about someone's PERSON as a result of their POST, especially if it is
> their first, for no reason other than it being stupid, I'll hit the button without warning, thought, or
> concern.
>
> I used to run the busiest of the UK Compuserve forums, and we had a similar rule: you can say what you like
> about what someone *says* but you cannot impugne the person themselves. So you can say "That doesn't make
> sense" but you can't say "You are an idiot for saying that". A lot of people seem to have trouble stopping at
> that line! But we had the rules, clearly laid down, and any infringements were dealt with by the Sysop team,
> either deleting the offending message(s), privately warning the miscreant (it was *never* done in public) or
> for persistent or very serious single offenders, banning them from the forum.
>
> On the topic: "You shouldn't be here if you're so sensitive as to be aggrieved when I insult you": No! This
> is blaming the victim. If I hit someone in the face with a shovel, it's not their nose's fault for being too
> weak to withstand it. They may have done something to "deserve" it, but it isn't my job to put them in their
> place in an environment such as this - tolerance should be the first response, and gentle nudging in the
> direction of getting a clue is much better than trying to "force" them into acting more sensibly. If it
> doesn't work then just ignore them because making them go away isn't appropriate. Some people do take insults
> to heart - it's a wide world and there are lots of different people, who all have a right to be helped by the
> more knowledgeable / experienced / fortunate, although the latter also have the right to not help someone they
> think is a waste of their time. But they don't have the right to insult them because of this. All this IMHO,
> of course! :-)
>
> One of the rules we had was that there was to be no discussion of the administrative decisions - the likes of
> "You can't ban XXXXXX because he's a good member of the forum" were not allowed, because (as I'm sure you've
> seen) the ensuing ruckus takes over the place, completely swamping the "real" messages, with a Signal / Noise
> ratio several orders of magnitude the wrong way! And since the Sysops' decision is final, discussing it is
> pretty pointless anyway... although private messages of support or otherwise were fine, and even Wizops are
> only human! :-)
>
> You do a good job, James, and I fully understand what's involved, and quite how thankless it can be. And I'm
> glad Olin is back because I learn a lot from him!
>
> Thank You!
>
>
> Howard Winter
> St.Albans, England
>
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